Have you ever felt frustrated trying to deliver something you wish you had never agreed to do in the first place? Has this resulted in dropping or delaying important commitments, losing others’ trust, and damaging relationships? Has it caused you to feel overextended, overwhelmed, and exhausted? 

If so, it’s time to create more space in your life and free yourself to focus on what matters most.

Wouldn’t it be nice if there were specific skills that would enable you to produce these exact results?

Fortunately, these skills are in YOU--specifically in how you listen and respond to the requests that come your way. 

What's missing?

Workshops teach you to say “No,” yet you keep saying "Yes" when you wish you hadn't. Why is this habit so hard to break?

1. It’s all about “No.” There is a much larger repertoire of responses to requests than simply "Yes" or "No". In fact, the three other options are easier to say and more likely to reflect what you want. 

2. Concepts without practice. Most workshops tell you what to do but don't show you how to embody it through practice.

3. Practicing too many things at once. You and a partner are asked to spend ten minutes practicing a conversation. This often backfires because it's not focused. The way to learn a skill is to break it into small parts, practice each part, then bring them all together. 

4. Practicing a skill just once. The ten-minute conversation practice model has another flaw: not enough reps. Nobody practices a guitar chord or tennis swing once. Excellence grows through multiple reps.

5. Leaving out reflection time. The idea here is simple: after each practice rep of responding to requests, you pause and reflect on the experience. Ever done this?