When the world turns upside down, when all that is solid melts into air, shock is a natural response.
Often, the shock is individual: Death of a loved one. A cancer diagnosis. Loss of a job or home.
And then there are events like the Cuban missile crisis, the Kennedy assassination, and 9/11. The ground beneath all of us suddenly feels less stable.
For more than half of the U.S. population–and millions around the world–the election of Donald Trump last week has been the ultimate shock.
I am no exception. I’ve experienced waves of disgust, sadness, anger, regret, and fear. My brain is wired to look forward, so it remains curious and anxious about the many future scenarios that could unfold. The gravest: unsteady hands on the nuclear codes and an impulsive and vindictive man interacting with other foreign powers.
It’s clear that I’m going to be reframing my work, friendships, and community commitments. Sobriety, imagination, and courage strike me as important guiding virtues. But how to express them? What actions would allow me to express my best self?
This week’s guest, Roxanne Howe-Murphy, suggests that I–and you–take an important step before plunging into action: get in touch with our own experiences with clarity and compassion.
Roxanne views Trump’s election as a leadership wake up call. The first task of leadership, she says, is to create a space for people to be present to their own experiences and share their stories. Not just because this is kind and truthful, but also because it produces wiser action. When we become present to our habitual patterns, we are more likely to do good stuff rather than head down negative spirals.
Roxanne is a pioneering teacher of the Enneagram, wise woman, and healing presence. Our conversation is very real. I hope you get value from it and share it with others in your life.
Highlights
- Shock points can be transformative moments or downward spirals
- The power of presence
- I share my own experience this week to illustrate the core pattern of Type Six, the Loyal Skeptic
- Roxanne describes Donald Trump as a low-average to unhealthy Type Eight, the Challenger. What can we expect from him?
- What are skillful ways to influence a Type Eight?
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Explore Additional Resources
- Roxanne Howe-Murphy and the Deep Living Institute
- Deep Coaching Institute, an Enneagram coaching school
- Deep Living: Transforming Your Relationship To Everything That Matters Through The Enneagram by Roxanne Howe-Murphy
- Deep Coaching: Using The Enneagram As A Catalyst For Profound Change by Roxanne Howe-Murphy
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