Episode 38: Dr. Keith Witt On Creating A Marital Love Affair [The Amiel Show] -

For the past few years, I have identified a “personal hero of the year,” someone who has inspired me to be a wiser, more loving, and more courageous person. In 2015, my personal hero of the year was marriage expert Dr. Keith Witt.

Dr. Keith is an integral psychotherapist, author, big thinker, and “therapist in the wild.”

In this rich and entertaining interview, we talk about about creating marital love affairs, improving sex, and developing the skills of a self-regulating adult in relationship. Get ready for a very valuable hour!

Highlights

5:00 How healthy marriages improve happiness, physical health, longevity, and children’s lives
9:45 Why it’s not surprising that marriage becomes less passionate over time
14:30 Why cheating on your spouse can seem to “appear out of nowhere”
18:30 When commitment shifts to “I’ll do what it takes”
20:00 Why some marriages get better after kids
24:30 White knuckle monogamy
29:00 Defensive states and the role of self-regulation skills
37:30 The role of sex in mending relationships
39:30 Getting in touch with you masculine and feminine core
45:00 How your attachment style as an infant affects your adult relationships
48:30 Using differentiation to improve sex
50:00 Improving sex – different advice from five leading relationship experts
56:00 Dr. Keith’s “two rules for guys” and “two rules for women”
1:00:00 Makeup sex