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Episode 98: Why Enneagram Types Matter With Roxanne Howe-Murphy

by amiel · Mar 5, 2019

Roxanne Howe-Murphy

The first time Roxanne Howe-Murphy and I planned to discuss the Enneagram, we were interrupted by an election. So we explored how to heal from Trump Shock (for those needing such healing).

Life gives second chances.

This week Roxanne and I took one such opportunity and ran with it.

The Enneagram is a system for personal and professional development I’ve been using for twenty years. It informs my coaching and, increasingly, my work with leadership teams.

There are nine Enneagram styles or types. Each provides a different answer to the question: What makes me tick?

Walking through all nine types is a big task. Roxanne and I chose instead to explore what is both the most practical and existential question about the Enneagram: why does it matter? What difference does it make when growing yourself to understand your Enneagram type? What difference does it make when coaching or managing someone else to understand theirs? And for those involved in parenting or mentoring kids, how can you shoot yourself in the foot by treating all kids the same, rather than personalizing to what makes each child tick?

Roxanne is a wise and warm presence. I invite you to grab a cup of tea and listen in.

Highlights

  • 4:30 That time Roxanne mis-typed herself
  • 14:00 Enneagram versus Myers-Briggs
  • 22:00 Learning your type makes your goals more true for you
  • 28:00 You share this way of being with 800 million other people
  • 33:00 A leader who didn’t trust herself
  • 44:00 What if you coached a Type Six as if they were you, a Type Nine?
  • 49:30 “I don’t recognize this child. He is so unlike me!”
  • 1:02:00 Our degree of presence matters

Listen to the Podcast

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Explore Additional Resources

  • Roxanne Howe-Murphy and the Deep Living Institute
  • Deep Coaching Institute, an Enneagram coaching school
  • Deep Living: Transforming Your Relationship To Everything That Matters Through The Enneagram by Roxanne Howe-Murphy
  • Deep Coaching: Using The Enneagram As A Catalyst For Profound Change by Roxanne Howe-Murphy
  • My interviews with Susanne Cook-Greuter and Jennifer Garvey-Berger on stages of adult development and their relevance to leadership

Filed Under: Adult development, Conflict, Deliberate practice, Emotions, Enneagram, Parenting, Podcast, Relationships

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