Why people resent your help [new post]

Helping others succeed in their jobs requires more than generosity. You need to understand what matters to them. For example, have you ever started counseling a direct report about his career and then noticed that he wanted to bolt the room? Or given a peer resources for her big project, then found yourself on the […]

Questions about friendship, parenting, and anxiety [new post]

Last week, I shared questions I’ve been wrestling/playing with as I coach executives, consult to organizations, and consider my impact on the larger world. This week, I share questions I’m exploring in three other domains: friendship, parenting, and anxiety. Friendship. What makes a friendship worth pursuing, and how can I recognize the presence or absence […]

Three questions on my mind today [new post]

It’s been over a month since I’ve shared a podcast episode or blog post. How are you doing? What questions are on your mind? Here are three questions that I’ve been wrestling/playing with in different domains of my life: Executive coaching. How can I support and challenge leaders to practice new conversations on the job? […]

Executive coaches are normalizing a demagogue. It’s time to stop.

  This will ruffle feathers, but I have to say it: don’t normalize a demagogue. The field in which I work, executive coaching, faces an identity crisis. We claim to stand for better leadership. It’s part of our core promise to clients. Yet we often get mired in mushy talk about style, treating people as […]