This high school experience is why I help some leaders gain power and others use it responsibly

Hi Friends, This week: a personal story about power and my heart, what I’m reading, and a marital example of minimum effective dose. Hit Reply and let me know what you think. Why I help some leaders gain power and others use it responsibly I’ve never shared this publicly. In high school, by outward appearance, […]

Women leaders’ double bind in one graph

women leaders

Hi Friends, Here’s something I sketched a while back. It’s based on stories I heard from clients and interviews from the podcast. What this says: women leaders who thrive walk a fine line between being too assertive and not assertive enough. Men typically have more leeway. What this is: an orienting generalization. It offers a valuable […]

Seven pivotal conversations to have this week with colleagues and family

Seven conversations

Dear Friends, Surreal and uncertain times call for deep attention to what conversations we have, with whom, and why.  Here are seven conversations you may find valuable having with your family, team, and colleagues this week while working from home. Hit Reply and let me know what you think or which you may try. When […]

Why pausing makes you smarter (Dec. 18, 2019 issue)

Hi friends, The other day, I was minding my own business, thinking small thoughts devoid of insight or humor, when I came across this quote from a writer claiming to be my taller, stronger younger brother. As you’ll see, it’s the perfect lead in for today’s email. “I always say “yes” — even when no one is asking […]

Episode 85: Alive In The Life We’ve Been Given—My Journey And Yours

How do you know when you are alive in the life you are given, the one you were born to live? This week, I don’t answer that question for you. In fact, I never will. Instead, please join me in exploring a question that fascinates and haunts me: is my life work solely about leadership […]

Episode 80: White Nationalism And Male Identity with Elizabeth Debold [The Amiel Show]

A year ago Sunday, white nationalists marched on Charlottesville, Virginia carrying torches and chanting “blood and soil” and “Jews will not replace us.” It was not a pretty sight. Most people I know found it abhorrent. The author Ta-Nehisi Coates did, too, but he wasn’t surprised. In an earlier episode Diane Woods explained why. The […]