Listen and speak as the change

Hi Friends, This week I’m creating a new minimalist web site (see below for a taste of the offer—hit Reply and let me know what you think) and writing about how White Fragility is “true but partial” (highlights coming soon). The real reason you’re ready to grow Developing into your best self is exciting but […]

Seven pivotal conversations to have this week with colleagues and family

Seven conversations

Dear Friends, Surreal and uncertain times call for deep attention to what conversations we have, with whom, and why.  Here are seven conversations you may find valuable having with your family, team, and colleagues this week while working from home. Hit Reply and let me know what you think or which you may try. When […]

Putting yourself in their shoes is a conversational skill you can practice

In the last newsletter, I introduced the concept of “conversation supplements.” These are specific ways of speaking and listening that put good leadership advice into action. Now it’s time for an example! The wise teacher I’m supplementing this week is Jennifer Garvey Berger, a frequent guest on my podcast. In a recent blog post, Jennifer describes why you […]

Why pausing makes you smarter (Dec. 18, 2019 issue)

Hi friends, The other day, I was minding my own business, thinking small thoughts devoid of insight or humor, when I came across this quote from a writer claiming to be my taller, stronger younger brother. As you’ll see, it’s the perfect lead in for today’s email. “I always say “yes” — even when no one is asking […]

Four ways to ask for a promotion with vastly different results

ask for a promotion

Ask for a promotion if you aren’t offered one You don’t ask for a promotion because you want your boss to offer it to you. Getting offered a promotion feels great. She does the hard thinking. You don’t have to go to her, because she comes to you. And you are now in the driver’s seat. […]

No More Feedback With Carol Sanford (Episode 103)

  This week, contrarian business thought leader Carol Sanford joins me to discuss her new book, No More Feedback. If the title strikes you as both surprising and unnerving, welcome to the club. Within organizations giving and receiving feedback are widely considered noble acts. Although we may not be competent at feedback, we know it’s […]